I found a guy who was 18 and a hired hand in 1860. The family he was working for had a daughter, Elizabeth, aged 12 on her last birthday in the same census. The guy spent just over 4 years in the 118th Indiana Volunteer Infantry, getting out in January 1866. When he came home, Elizabeth had grown up. Women married at 16/17 in 1866. They married and were together for 56 years, until death did them part. I often wonder if she had other suitors, and what they thought when he came walking up the front path, and, in a voice that once told his platoon to fix bayonets and follow him, suggested they go back home to their mommy.